Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead
— Philippians 3:13

I want you to take a moment to think about your biggest struggles in life. The things that you know have shaped your world view. The broken hearts, the lies or cheating you endured, the less than perfect upbringing and childhood, the time you didn't know how you were going to put food on the table, or the time you failed so miserably you didn't know if you'd ever get up again.

Pausing to allow you some time to tap into those moments......

Ok, now that you have thought about your personal struggle, ask yourself, how does this experience effect your ability to love, take risks, or take chances on yourself? How does it effect your self confidence? How does it effect your personal standard and your view on what life could be?

Be honest, no judgement here.

Why is this important? You probably have heard that our experiences, good or bad, effect the way we go about living life and what we believe is possible. With that in mind everyone (myself included) is hanging on to some unhealthy baggage that we need to first identify, and secondly, unload.

I've met people who are well into their 30's, 40's, and even 50's that still lean on things that happened in their childhood, past relationships or failures to excuse why they make poor decisions or fail to overcome their fears. Now don't get me wrong, I greatly sympathize with people's hardships and the courage and strength it takes to pull through. Which is why it makes absolutely no sense to me why we sometimes insist on breathing life into these past experiences. God delivers you from your hardship, you come out on the other side, tired, scared, but wiser and stronger and yet we chose to continue to carry these experiences in to our present which in turn effects our future.

We trick ourselves into thinking there are no good men, or that we aren't smart enough, that people can't be trusted, the list goes on and on. The worst part is that when things don't go our way, or when we make poor decisions, we fail to take responsibility if it seems in any way connected to our toxic belief system. 

But listen and listen good because I am going to tell you something I have to tell myself from time to time...

TRUTH MOMENT: There is a statue of limitations by which we adults can blame parents,  bosses, friends, previous relationships, and difficult experiences for the poor decisions we make, our lack of happiness,passion, and faith.

Our trials and tribulations are proof that we can overcome and persevere through things we never thought we'd be strong enough to endure. Yet instead of using those moments as our testimonies that God has got our back, we use them as an excuse to keep our standards low. We fail to take risks and move forward to attempt things we fear.

You’ll never be able to start a new chapter in your life unless you stop re-reading the last one
— Unknown

...And that my friend is a one way ticket to living a life full of mediocracy.

Please understand that I am not suggesting that reading this makes it easy to wake one day and POOF! your past has no effect on you. But one thing is true...


It's one of the hardest things you'll do, because our past can carry a lot of pain that we don't want to dig up. At some point you have to decide that you will stop letting your past sit in the drivers seat of your life.

You have to decide dealing with your past in a healthy way is worth the investment in your future success. Failing to do so can be at the expense of losing the things and the people that mean the most to you. Letting go of the past is the beat thing for you and those you love. 

How much are you willing to love yourself? Are you really willing to forgive?

Is piece of mind worth investing in a life coach or counselor? Are your dreams worth taking a class or joining a support group to help you build your confidence? Are your dreams worth letting go of things you know are not connected to your well being?

What is your happiness worth? What are your dreams worth? 

The choice is yours, decide to take action in spite of your past and your pain. Decide that your past is proof that you can get through anything. Take responsibility for your present & your future, the good and the bad. 

How long are you willing to hand over your present and your future to the bad experiences of the past?

Tap into your power & Let it Go!